I don’t need air because I breathe her

We all knew this day would come… the topic that those of us who are single dread, lol. Okay, it’s probably just me. And I’ll own that I probably just have issues…ISSUES PEOPLE. And it all stems around this one question—DO I BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT, SOUL MATES AND DESTINY?

Such a loaded question. Politically speaking, I have to say yes…after all, it’s my livelihood. Characters in books often don’t have the luxury of ‘time’. You only have a finite number of pages to create their romance, and readers really don’t want to waste chapters on all the awkward beginnings…or middle sections. Authors need to hit the highlights of a couple’s journey. Not endless dates at the café drinking coffee. This means entire books are built around the concept of falling in love quickly. And completely.

Realistically…it’s an odd concept. Mostly because we, as people, change so much as we grow. Finding that one person who ‘completes’ us—and will for the rest of our lives—is far more challenging than it sounds. And knowing that person is right for you with nothing more than a single meeting?

You can see the issue. It’s almost a no-win situation. So, I’ll have to fall back onto my own personal feelings… dangerous territory people. Though it sort of is the purpose of the blog. Hey, this is a scary topic…I need latitude here.

My personal answer is… YES. I do. Though I have yet to succeed in this area, I remain a hopeful romantic. I have a few amazing friends that I knew would be life-long buddies from the first moment I met them. I remain optimistic that I might, yet, find someone who makes you feel this way romantically. Or maybe it’s just my determination not to give up, lol.

Though I do think that even soul mates, or couples that fall fast and hard have to work to make love last. Because the story doesn’t end once they fall in love. There’s still a lifetime of living left. And that’s what puts any love affair to the test.

But at the end of the day…I think everyone wants to believe in the concept, if for no other reason than to maintain faith. And I need a mountain’s worth of faith.

And while you’re at it, check out this awesome song (where I borrowed the title from) that my oldest has been listening to. Oh, young love…it also gives me hope, even if I am a bit jealous.

Check out the other ladies…see what they think.

Jessica Jarman  |  Bronwyn Green  |  Jessica De La Rosa  |  Gwendolyn Cease

9 thoughts on “I don’t need air because I breathe her

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  3. Gwen Cease

    I agree with you about the whole idea of people growing and changing. Who you’re interested in at 19 is going to be totally different at say 29. If couples don’t grow and change together that’s when problems set in. This also goes with friends. I’ve “outgrown” friends before. It hurts when it happens, but you gotta move on. Great post, Norris!

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  4. Bronwyn Green

    Hey Science-y girl, I stumbled across this article last week and when I read your post, I thought you might appreciate it, too. BTW, I knew as soon as we talked on the phone for the first time that you were stuck with me. 😉 http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html?WT.mc_id=2015-Q1-KEYWEE-MOBILE-AUD_DEV-0201-0331&WT.mc_ev=click&bicmp=AD&bicmlukp=WT.mc_id&bicmst=1420088400&bicmet=1451624400&kwp_0=8905&_r=0

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  5. Kris Norris Post author

    Seriously? I’m the ONLY one who has any faith in sentimental ideals? Sigh. Obviously, it’s desperation mixed with wishful thinking. But I also think there’s a fine line between love and lust, and it’s mostly what we are willing to tell ourselves. So there… I’m owning this, bitches. All the way.

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  6. Pansy Petal

    You have a very good argument for love at first sight. I appreciate it. I commend you for being able to hold on to that faith and hope! A precious gift. Thank you. Maybe there is still hope for me too. Love the song! Beautiful. Sweet. Enjoyed the topic this week.

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  7. BA Tortuga

    I believe. I knew the first time I read her almost 16 years ago. I knew the first time we met in person 12 years ago. I knew when we moved in together 8 years ago. And I knew when she said I do, 8 months ago this coming Sunday. 😀

    I totally believe.

    I believe in you, too, btw. *hugs tight*

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    1. Kris Norris Post author

      Thank You!!!!!

      I honestly think there are times when it’s as close as we ever get to magic. I’ve had friends who fell together in a heated rush and haven’t strayed since. I believe love is all those other emotions we feel from the moment we sense a connection…it just takes everyone a different amount of time to decide what it is. Maybe I’m just a day-dreamer. But I kinda like it that way. To me, it’s like Neverland… second star to the right and straight on ’til morning. You can either see the stars or you can’t.

      And that’s far too deep, lol. Smooches, honey. And can I just say that you and Julia are an inspiration…I can only hope to have a taste of what you two share…you two give me that hope….

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  8. Jessica De La Rosa

    Loves evolves over time, absolutely. My mom and step dad had a very shorty courtship and engagement (under a year) and her reasoning was, “It’s just not the same as being new to love. You know what you are looking and when to compromise and when not to.” In a way, you could say they were love at first sight and they are still married after 18 years drama free. I don’t think I’ve witnessed a single argument. But would I support a younger couple with that same idea, no. I’d call them crazy and foolish.

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